More Specifically, What Do You Want Your Live to Stand For?
This is a continuation of the previous two posts based on a post on PlugInID
Accept Your Random Mindstorms
Emotions Are Waves
- In all things have no preferences
- Be indifferent to where you live
- Do not pursue the taste of good food
- Do not hold on to possessions you no longer need
- Do not act following customary beliefs
- Do not collect weapons or practice with weapons beyond what is useful
…we all have a preference over things such as Coke vs Pepsi or Cars vs Motorbikes but that isn’t the main message. I think the message here is not about having no preferences but rather about not letting certain preferences control your emotions. — Glen Allsop
Answer this question.
What is really important to you? Not what do you want to accomplish, but how do you want to live your life?
And here is a secret – there is no why.
When you look back, doesn’t it seem like what you truly value finds you?
It’s easy to get trapped in the process of giving reasons for what we like, what we want, what we want more of in our lives. So, what do you like, Coke or Pepsi? Make a list of the reasons. Take a minute and do this little exercise.
Now, take a look at the list. Which of those reasons causes you to like the one you chose? Trick question.
If you really get into this, you will realize that the answer is “none of them.” When you get right down to it, we like what we like. Period. It’s just what we like.
And this is just a trivial preference. Well, maybe not, depends on how much soda pop means to you.
When you get down to the really important things, the things, the principles that you, as a creative, whole, resourceful human being, realize are the things that your life stands for, they just are what they are.
Values are personal and reasons don’t cause them. You also don’t need reasons to have them. Values are one thing that no one can judge you on. When they do, they are judging with their own value system. When I say that to clients, they usually come up with something like, “Yeah, but what if a person values being a racist, or violence, or something else like that.”
It is still their business. I may choose not so associate with them; I may even catch my little mind judging them. It;s not my place to do that, though. I wouldn’t take on the responsibility of talking them out of them.
Methnks it would be a fools errand.
While you need no reasons for what you value, the diametric opposite is also true. If you are living the life you mean to live, your values have become your reasons.
Before this starts to get way too long, I am going to close for now and return.
As always, believe nothing you see written here, trust your own life, and please, let me know where I am wrong.
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